Monday, August 11, 2014

BLAST FROM THE PAST: Rick goes bald (in 1999)

This is adapted from what I sent to the CNI Newsflash back in 1999. I can't remember if they accommdated, but I asked them to put this box on the front, and the article in back. Aboubt #RickBacon.


Who’s hair is this?
Why is it on the floor? 
See inside for the gory details.
Below is a webbed up version of the fun we had.

BEFORE

During

After?




Or going, going, ????




It was kind of a dare.
Barnwell Regional Publisher Rick Bacon promised out loud that he would shave his head if certain members of a local civic club donated some money to the United Way.
Unfortunately for him, those members were actually listening, and donated the money.
On Jan. 6, 1999, he went up to the PaceSetter Barber Shop in Barnwell and barber Renee Patton did the deed, as the happy crowd of United Way donors looked on and poked fun at Bacon.
“You ever had this done before, Rick?” one asked.
“”AF12807807,” Bacon replied, giving his military serial number from when he was inducted into the Air Force at Amarillo Air Force Base.
“Name, rank and serial number, that’s all I’m supposed to give, he later asked.
Another donor, David Cannon, who has helped the paper with information on a local drive to raise relief supplies for the victims of Hurricane Mitch in Honduras, asked Bacon if he had a magic marker on hand.
“That way you can mark where your hair used to be, so you’ll know where to stop washing your face.”
“That’s a good one,” Rick replied. “You getting this?”
After it was all said and done, the ladies in attendance said they actually liked the way Bacon’s shorn head looked.
“I’m disappointed,” Cannon said. “I was hoping he’d look much worse than that. Feel like I wasted my money.”
Several members of the newspaper’s staff gave visible gasps when Rick returned to the office. They were surprised to see what he had done, even though it was announced in the newspaper that day.
“I resolve to lose a headful of hair for 1999,” Bacon wrote in his column, Bacon’s Bits. “The good news is, thanks to Just for Men hair color, I feel safe in predicting that my hair will grow back a beautiful shade of medium brown.”
But his hair is coming back in mixed shades of gray and something else. So maybe he needs “Just for” something else.

Saturday, August 9, 2014

UPDATE 2: Everything is better with Bacon

UPDATE 2: Rick's obit. HYSTERICAL. Read it here, or below.
NORTON!



The best boss I ever had, has died.
One of the best friends I ever had, has died.
A man who took to mentoring me and sometimes treated me like a stupid son, has died.
And one of the funniest human beings on the planet has died.
Rick Bacon.
A lot of time, people look around and say, "I owe him everything."
It's often just that. Something people say.
He plucked me out of one rural corner of South Carolina where I was just a reporter, asked me to come to his papers in Barnwell and Allendale and to do what I do best. Kick ass, in a journalistic sense.
He gave me generally free rein, and he always backed me up. Except for a couple of times, including the time he brought me into his office, told me to close the doors and then asked "Who the f--- I thought I was."
He was the last person to pay me a fair wage straight up, though not the last person to try to do so. So I have a toy or two, thanks to him.
But he had previously hired as an editor a woman named Patricia Larson. Transferred her to be a publisher in Winnsboro before I moved to Barnwell. But she came to Barnwell once a week for production work.
The guy who, inadvertantly, arranged for me to meet my wife, has died.
Without Rick, I guess I don't have Patricia. Without Rick, I guess I don't have our son as well.
He was always there for me, with a joke to cheer me up, with advice about a job that maybe wasn't going so well, to offer a reference for a new job, whatever kind I'd like. The truth, if that would help. A hedge, if it would not.
His lessons were very quick and deadly.
I don't remember when I talked to him after 9/11, but I was going on about the attack, about the Twin Towers, about how my cousins were nowhere near and of course safe.
Then he said, "Candy's sister and brother-in-law are OK."
Brought it quickly home. Candy's sister and brother-in-law lived in or around Washington DC. He was in the military and had, I think, a job at the Pentagon.
9/11 wasn't just about the attacks on New York, but being a native New Yorker, I see the attacks that way.
He would ask a question, you'd start talking and when he could get a word in edgewise, he'd say, "Let me ask that question in a different way." Then he'd ask that question the exact same way. to drive home the point. Listen.
I was remembering some of his stories. Many true. There was the radio host on the religious station in Burnsville, NC, where he worked, who, when reading the Bible and came across a word he did not know, would simply say, "Big word."
His BBQ hog call he used to do.
Sometimes he just got great moments out of pure luck. His last day on the job, when he left Barnwell to go to Lake City, Fla., he was just about to leave when a song came on the radio.
This song --

He came back for the first verse, than twirled and danced his way out the door. Even some of my co-workers who were cursing his name a month before were crying.
And laughing, at his timing and his little spin move.
Rick told me once that he sometimes stopped calling people who said they were friends, just to see how long it took for them to call with something other than a request for him to be a reference. It was a test.
I think that was part of the reason behind his abandonment of Facebook a while back. We have "friends" on Facebook. Friends we don't talk to in the real world anymore. It's too easy to count your friends and not be a friend you can count on.
I did my best to stay in touch. Usually we would have email exchanges, and that would prompt him to send me a message, in which he asked, always, for my wife's phone number.
I think he wanted to hear her voice.
In February, he asked me about my other favorite boss of all time, Mardy Jackson. Asked me if she had died of cancer. I am wondering now if that was a roundabout way of preparing me for what came in April.
April 14.
I have some work to do.
I received word a couple of weeks ago that I have lung cancer.
Met with the radiation oncologist Friday to decide on a regiment.
Meeting with chemo oncologist this Wednesday.
I’ve had several tests, but we are going to do another c/t scan, a pet scan, a brain scan and another biopsy to see if there has been any ‘spread.’
If not we have a curative plan. If so, it’s just a treatment plan.
I have a good attitude and am going to do everything they ask me to do to whoop it’s ass.
Fighting with cancer jokes of the week.
This weeks:
Why did the cancer patient cross the road?
So he could be hit by a truck.
Keep smiling.
You may call me:
Chemo-Sabe

I responded, rambling as a jerk, but trying to make him smile. I said we'd pray, of course, but I would do anything to help, particularly anything that would get me named his heir.
Little chance of that, though.
Ten more days passed, and he started a little column, for friends, that he would NOT post on the Internet as a blog, but just send to those he wanted to send it to. The title was based on a movie we both loved. From Miracle Max in the Princess Bride, he called it, "Have Fun Storming the Cancer."
There were to be multiple installments in which he detailed his attempts to kill cancer with humor.
There was just one more.
My sister was doing Relay for Life, because Dad died from his breast cancer returning last year. And we got a luminary for Rick. I emailed him a picture of it, and we talked back and forth via email a bit.

He sent me back a picture of that luminary posted above his desk at work. I also saw a picture of a county highway sign, that said, Yancey County, Shallow Gene Pool, No Diving.
He said someone made it up based on one of his jokes.
I sent him an email about a friend who got a job in the same building where he worked. As I expected he would, he told me to tell her to drop by.
But I also told him about these episodes of The People's Pharmacy on NPR devoted to cancer that he should probably check out.
He told me he had some unexpected pain.
"I think you are too worried about me," he wrote. That was July 21.
Not enough, apparently.
There was one more email, but it was totally nondescript.
Since he knew her first, it's only fitting that his last words to us went to Patricia, albeit to her voicemail.
"Mrs. Guilfoyle, this is Rick Bacon," he says, his voice sounding a little weak, a little shaky. "And I just wanted to tell you that's a heck of a Pope you've got now. He gives me faith that ... maybe all religion isn't all totally crap. Just wanted you to know that. Have a good day."
That was July 30. I get a kick out him calling her Mrs. Guilfoyle, for one thing. The pause after "He gives me faith that ..." makes me wonder. Was he, as normal, just going for the joke that followed? Or was he thinking about something else, but reverted to type because he wasn't quite ready to admit it to others.
Patricia told me she played phone tag trying to get back with him a bit.
That was, we learned, the day he learned that the treatment plan wasn't working. On Friday, Patricia got a few messages, one on Facebeook and one from Rick's son Jon, calling on Rick's cell phone, missing her, of course, but letting her know what happened the night of Aug. 7.
She called me, around 1:30, 2 on Aug. 8 to see if I had heard on my own. As I was just waking up to go to my night-time job, I had not.
Everything is better with Bacon. The afterlife, therefore, is better.
I was, and remain, stunned.

From the second linked story below. "A “Celebration to Remember” that Bacon planned before his death is scheduled from 1-3 p.m. Aug. 23 at Pier 41 Seafood in Lumberton. Bacon asked people not to waste money by sending flowers. Instead, he suggests those who want to remember him do a random act of kindness or donate to their favorite charity."

Story on Rick's death in the Richmond County Daily Journal.

County mourns the loss of Rick Bacon, from the Richmond County Daily Journal.

His obituary, in case the link doesn't work.

Richard Norton (Rick) Bacon 

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LUMBERTON — Richard Norton Bacon (Rick) of Lumberton has left the building. His friends will tell you he's in a better place. The rest will say they can smell the Bacon burning. He is stress-free and at peace.
The curtain came down on Thursday night at Southeastern Regional Medical Center.
He is survived by his loving wife of 29 years, Candace Smith Bacon. He is also survived by his son Jonathan Bacon and wife Beth of High Point; daughter Melody Kearse of Rock Hill, S.C., and son Bryan Kearse and wife Liz of Raleigh. Five grandchildren made his life better with their visits.
Rick loved dogs. Trixie, Richie, James Brown Beans and Mr. Woo were the last in a long line of hairy hogs that shared his bed and his affection.
He was born in Auburn, N.Y., July 16, 1947, the son of the late Elizabeth Dunster Bacon and Frederick Neil Bacon. He was also predeceased by a brother, Ted.
He drifted south from upstate New York in 1962 to the mountains of North Carolina, where he graduated without honors in the class of '65 at East Yancey High School. After one undistinguished year at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill, Rick enlisted in the United States Air Force. He became a Morse intercept operator and spent two and a half years overseas in Turkey and Italy.
After another failed college attempt at Mars Hill College, Rick got his start in media at WKYK radio in Burnsville, N.C. From radio it was on to newspaper, where Rick spent 26 years publishing newspapers, moving from state-to-state looking for a town that would keep him. From Spruce Pine, N.C. to Barnwell, S.C. to Lake City, Fla., he survived buying a Buick LeSabre (the official car of geezers) and a heart attack that convinced him it was time to leave Florida unless he wanted to die young. He headed back to North Carolina to live and work in Rockingham and Lumberton, where he had a good life.
Rick was a Rotarian for over 25 years. He served as president of the Rockingham Rotary Club in 2012-13 and was proud of the work that Rotary did in the community and around the world. He was a two-time Paul Harris Fellow.
In March of 2014, Rick was diagnosed with lung cancer. He celebrated with yet another trip to a Cincinnati Reds game. If you knew Rick, you knew that he was a loyal Reds fan since the late '50s without ever living a day in Ohio. He often said, "There's no explaining taste."
Cremation will take place at the family's convenience and his ashes will be kept in an urn, passed from family member to family member until no one can remember what's in the jar.
Everyone who remembers Rick is asked to celebrate his life in their own way; telling a 'He wasn't so bad' or 'What an ass' story of their choosing. Boiled shrimp and a beverage of your choice should be part of any celebration.
Instead of flowers, Rick would hope that you will do an unexpected act of kindness for some less fortunate soul. Rick liked to buy food for the car behind him in the drive-thru lane, or a meal for a military couple (if he could do it without them knowing who paid). That's a lot cheaper than flowers.
A memorial luncheon in Rick's honor will be held at Pier 41 in Lumberton on Saturday, Aug. 23, 2014 from 1 to 3 p.m. at Pier 41 Seafood. Adult beverages will follow at widow Candy's house on Camellia Lane. To the crooks reading this: We left an armed guard and the four killer dogs home from the luncheon. If you come to steal, they will hurt you.​


Friday, June 6, 2014

Blast from the Past: Back to the Beach

Back to the Beach: Ernandez returning to Normandy one final time

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Buddy Ernandez, then and now, shown above a cemetery for Americans killed at Omaha Beach during the Normandy Invasion, June 6, 1944.

By Stephen Guilfoyle

Buddy Ernandez doesn’t get seasick. This son of Lando takes pride in it, telling a yarn about a deep-sea fishing trip he took once with a jet fighter pilot.
The pilot, who could do fantastic maneuvers and barrel rolls, spent the voyage literally spilling his guts. Buddy just smiled and fished.
Rough or easy, the sea doesn’t bother Buddy. After all, he’s been in rougher, tougher places at sea.
The English Channel, to be precise.
June 6, 1944, actually.
That day, he was with 3rd Platoon, C Company of the 18th Regiment of the U.S. Army’s 1st Infantry Division — “the Big Red One.”
The first wave went in at 6 a.m. The 16th Regiment was in that wave.
If not for a mix-up, Buddy would have been in that outfit, and he is certain he wouldn’t be here, alive today, to tell his story.
The 16th and the rest of the first wave got torn to pieces by German machine guns and cannons raining bullets and shells down all morning. More than 1,500 men were killed in that first wave, Buddy says.
So the call went out. The second wave started going in around 7, hours early. The second wave included the 18th Regiment, which included Buddy.
Buddy boarded his Higgins boat, a landing craft, and headed out over rough waves to his part of the “Longest Day,”
when the Allies captured Normandy, France, starting the offensive that would end World War II in Europe.
Buddy saw things that day he still can’t get out of his mind, blood and guts, real blood and guts, arms and legs, pieces of real men hanging off metal “hedgehogs,” blood in the water, blood on the sand.
Yet for all the horror, next week he’s going back, back to that beach.
Omaha Beach.

“Greatest Generation”

This will be Buddy Ernandez’ third trip back, he says, but “it’s probably the last one.”
Ernandez is one of the greatest generation. He and millions of other young American men fought the Nazis, liberated death camps, fought real evil. Then they came home and built things, cars, planes, homes, creating a booming economic engine. They landed a man on the moon.
But the men who fought World War II are now senior citizens, and they are dying out — some reports put it at 1,000 a day.
Buddy just turned 84. When he first hit the beach, he was younger, much younger – 2009 marks the 65th anniversary of the Normandy invasion.
He was not yet 17, a student at Edgemoor High School, on the day everything changed for his generation. On Dec. 7, 1941, Japan launched a sneak attack on Pearl Harbor and the United States entered a war on two fronts, fighting Japan and the Nazis in Germany.
Before that, this Lando boy, this son of the mill village, had few worries. He had a couple of good coon dogs and he loved to hunt, shooting squirrels and other small animals in the hills around Fishing Creek.
But life changed. It was a frightening time, he says. He remembers reading in the old Charlotte newspapers about six men killed when German U-boats sunk fishing ships off the coast of North Carolina.
He registered for the draft when he turned 18, and he was called up a year later, in 1943.

Training, deploying

Buddy went to Camp Webster in Macon, Ga., for basic training. His drill instructor was tough as nails. When his company reported, the lavatory in the two-story barracks was spotless the first night.
“‘You know who keeps it this clean?’ the sergeant asked us. ‘You do,’” Buddy says, acting the role and pointing his finger.
Buddy tells stories with elaboration. He takes time for details. He gestures, raises his arms for emphasis. He often closes his eyes, as if trying to picture the scene. After a few minutes, he really settles in. He relaxes into his natural Lando accent and the tale comes at its own speed of his time on “O-mee-ha Beach.”
Basic finished after about four months, and everyone was ordered onto a train and sent to Union Station in Washington, D.C.
“A man will meet you at the station and tell you where to go,” they were told.
At the station, he was put on a truck and taken to Fort Meade, Md. He carried his duffel bag to a parade ground. He and thousands of other young men were told to wait until they heard their names.
It took forever. Soldiers played poker and gin rummy, Buddy says, while they waited. There was a lunch break in the middle of the day. At the end of the day, Buddy was the only man left standing on the parade ground.
The lieutenant, a guy “so young, he looked like he had just graduated from Clemson,” was not happy to see Buddy. He questioned Buddy, who said his name was never called.
The lieutenant took Buddy to see a colonel, and the colonel heard both out. The colonel asked Buddy to find his name in the list, and it was there. Then the colonel asked the lieutenant to read the name aloud. He stuttered, yet insisted he had called it out on the field.
“The colonel says, ‘If you can’t say it now, you obviously couldn’t say it then,’” Buddy says. But the train he was to take had left hours before.
Buddy had some spending money in his pocket. He’d sold Butler and Leeds, his coon dogs, to a Rock Hill man who admired the dogs yet promised to sell the dogs back, no questions asked, if Buddy made it back.
The colonel found Buddy a bunk. A week later, another mass of men filled the parade ground. Buddy was put on a train again, sent to Camp Shanks, N.Y, briefly, then put on a boat in a six- to eight-boat convoy to England, to train for the invasion.

The Big Red One

That was how he ended up in the 18th Regiment. He also learned the 16th was the unit he should have been assigned to. Both were in the 1st Infantry, the Big Red One, but the 16th was a week ahead of the 18th while they trained for the invasion. Until D-Day, that is.
The Big Red One was an experienced, busy division. Its men had landed in North Africa, Sicily and Italy. The ones who survived were experienced and tough. Guys like Buddy beefed up platoons that had suffered heavy casualties, but it gave the fresh replacements a chance to work with battle-tested soldiers.
Buddy’s convoy landed at Liverpool, England, and he made his way to a camp near Portsmouth, where they trained for more than a year.
They knew their job and they knew the plan. They were to take the beach, off-load tanks and supplies and fuel. They were to head inland to assist airborne troops who went in June 5 to places like Sainte-Mere-Eglise, Cherbourg.
But when they hit Omaha Beach, everything went bad.

The Longest Day

Only one unit landed at its intended location that day. Nothing else went right, but the few officers who survived were innovative.
The 16th hit the beach first, Buddy says.
“About all of them died,” he said. So the klaxon on their boats called, “All hands on deck, all hands on deck.”
The second wave had to go in early.
He got in his Higgins boat with 30 other soldiers, rode the waves and hit Omaha Beach for the first time in his life.
The men were loaded down with every piece of equipment that could be conceived, but once they landed, Buddy says, soldiers started stripping down to the essentials – ammo and weapons, ammo and weapons.
The beach was almost impossible to pass through — barricaded with concrete, concertina wire, mines.
Buddy remembers how his squads got through. A destroyer, the USS Frank-ford, turned parallel to the beach and shelled the German positions, stopping the deadly fire that was pinning down the men on that part of the beach.
Buddy fought 12 to 14 hours, dodging bullets, firing his Browning Automatic Rifle, stripping ammo off the wounded and the dead, trying to stay alive.
It was night, around 9 p.m., when his fighting stopped, briefly. With a little time to regroup, they headed inland.
“I got one thing that nobody can ever take away,” Buddy says. He was there, on “Bloody Omaha,” the biggest battle ever fought, and he survived.
He was 19 years old.
The war in Europe
Buddy walked every mile, he said, from the beach, with fire fights every day and many nights, 50 miles to battles in Belgium. His last combat action was in Aachen, the first German city conquered in the war.
He helped liberate a work camp. It wasn’t one of the death camps that epitomize the evil of Nazi Germany. But it was also not a pleasant sight. He had to delouse the workers, mostly women and young children.
He then helped drive the displaced Czechs and Slavs back to their homelands in the Balkans.
He became part of the occupation until he got orders to head west. He boarded a boat, the Mexican Victory, which carried him past the white cliffs of Dover and back to the United States.

The Statue of Liberty

On the 15-day sea voyage back, counselors told the men to put the war behind them, to forget the bad and look forward to the good that would come when they got home.
If he saw it on his way over to Europe, he doesn’t say. But he does mention it as part of his return. When the Mexican Victory pulled into New York harbor, Buddy saw the Statue of Liberty. It meant something to him.
The troops took a short hop to a nearby station and Buddy and the soldiers were put on a train, again. This time he got a sleeper cabin in a fancy Pullman car.
He and his fellows were unloaded at Fort Bragg, N.C., and told to stick around if they wanted to serve in the peacetime army, or hit the road. He wanted to get the hell out, so he hit the road, hitching a ride to Charlotte with a guy whose brother showed up in a car.
A bus from Charlotte took him back to Chester County, to the old company store in Lando. His siblings were all babies, so there was no one to meet him. He walked the last bit to his home.
His mother “grabbed him by the neck,” he says. She cried.
“I’m glad to see you home,” she told him. She knew he would be getting out sooner or later, but she didn’t expect him “so soon.”
It was Jan. 17, 1946. He had been away for almost three years.

An American life

He got a job at a printing company, took some classes under the G.I. Bill, but after showing fellow members of the American Legion that he could cook, he talked himself into opening a restaurant. His mother had taught him to cook as a young man and he liked it.
He opened the Columbia Street Grill, a restaurant where the Cyclone now stands. He was leasing the space, but later opened his own restaurant, Buddy’s Drive-In, on the J.A. Cochran Bypass, in the ’60s.
He met Beverly at a Sugar Bowl a few years before and the two got married, had a daughter. They worked hard to build a nice life for themselves. They ran the restaurant for almost 30 years.
They’ve leased half of the drive-in to various Chinese restaurants over the years. But they keep the other half for themselves, keeping it ready and clean. Every Fourth of July, they cook barbecue for sale. Buddy smokes his barbecue and won’t give up his recipe.
So he managed to put a lot of it behind him, as he was advised.
But he can’t keep it all inside.

Peace

Buddy says that any man who has fought in a war knows it has just one lesson. War is terrible. The man who’s been to war doesn’t believe in war. He wants peace.
When World War II ended, the whole world was at peace.
“Didn’t last long, did it?” he says.
Soldiers like him hailed the creation of the United Nations. What a wonderful thing, he says — an organization that would prevent war.
Yet every few years, there’s another war.
“Where the hell is the U.N.?”
His voice carries obvious disgust over the war in Iraq. It shouldn’t have happened, he says.
Heroes
His experience has taught him much. Though the survivors of World War II are lauded as the greatest generation, though the soldiers who fought are hailed as heroes, Buddy says there are no heroes who can talk about Omaha Beach today.
The only heroes are already over there, buried beneath crosses and Stars of David in the fields of France.
He and his wife will visit those fields again next week, with a British survivor of the battle they met and befriended a few years ago. They are riding over on a ferry from England to France, almost the same sea route Buddy took in 1944.
Media reports say President Barack Obama will speak at a ceremony over there. A soldier attached to the State Department in Paris has obtained tickets for the Ernandezes and their friends to the official program on June 6, 2009.

In a word

The counselors years ago told him to forget it, don’t talk about it, but he can’t forget.
He puts the whole experience into one word, using its real meaning.
His eyes close, his arms shake a little as he says it, as if, there in his den, he’s actually already back there, back in ’44, back “crawling over nothing but dead people.”
As if he’s back on the beach.
“It was the most … awesome … thing ever.”

From The News & Reporter of Chester, S.C.

Thursday, May 29, 2014

STORY: Festus the Labrador guides wounded Marine back to a normal life

Charlie and his labs.
Charlie Petrizzo and some of his Labrador retrievers pictured in May at his Waxhaw home/training kennel. 

I got to do a freelance story for the Catholic News Herald, my wife's paper. Was nice to be able to squeeze in a freelance assignment.
Here is a picture and the story below, as well. Please go ahead and hit the story on her site. It's the nice thing to do. And she's got more pictures than I do.

STORY: Festus the Labrador guides wounded Marine back to a normal life
WAXHAW, N.C. — A red fox Labrador retriever named Festus has given Marine Staff Sgt. Nick Bennett something he hasn't had since he heard a whistling noise in Anbar Province in Iraq in 2004.
Bennett has his life back.
Things most people take for granted – picking something up off the bottom shelf at the grocery store, putting on a pair of socks, enjoying a baseball game – had been out of his reach for much of the past 10 years since he heard that whistling sound and was severely injured – physically and mentally.
A long-time Marine reservist who lives in Franklin, Ind., Bennett asked his superiors if he could deploy during Operation Iraqi Freedom when several members of his unit were called up. His family has a long tradition of military service, and he also wanted to serve his country, he says.
He and five others ended up in Anbar Province, in an area dubbed the "Triangle of Death."
Bennett was technically a communications officer, but given his family's emphasis on military service, he says, he didn't go to Iraq just to work in a communications hut making sure fellow Marines could email and phone home. So he also pulled security duty at his forward operating base in Mamadiyah, Iraq.
It was one of the deadliest months of the war, and Bennett and his fellow Marines endured daily mortar attacks and IED blasts while out on patrol. Then rockets started falling on their base.
"The mortars, they thump," he recalls. "The rockets whistle."
The piercing whistle he heard on Nov. 11, 2004, was a rocket attack. When the blast from the 107mm shell struck him, badly wounding his legs and arms, Bennett was getting into a Humvee to assist other Marines who had come under attack. He had been in Iraq for less than three months.
An expression of 'caritas'
Outside a home set amid the rolling green hills south of Charlotte, N.C., one mild May morning, a man claps and whistles, and a collection of Labrador retrievers comes bounding up to him. Their tails wag as he pets and hugs each one.
Charlie Petrizzo has turned his three-acre property into a kennel and training operation for these Labs to become service dogs for people like Bennett.
Petrizzo formerly worked in financial services, where he focused on making money. Now retired, this cradle Catholic feels compelled to put his faith into action.
Project2Heal is that calling.
The "puppies," as Petrizzo affectionately calls them, get all the attention, but the idea is to help people. The dogs he breeds, raises and sometimes fully trains at Project2Heal are his way of expressing Catholic charity, he says.
"Charity comes from the word 'caritas.' It means Christ-like love."
Petrizzo knows something about what the people his dogs help have endured. He suffered two near-death experiences in his life, including getting electrical burns while standing on an aluminum ladder.
"I call that the gift that keeps on giving," he says with a wry laugh, explaining that he has had to deal with subsequent medical problems that trace back to that accident.
A family Labrador retriever helped him heal, and dogs have remained a source of comfort for him. So after years as a Fortune 500 executive, he searched for a way involving dogs that would enable him to help others who needed similar healing.
That way became Project2Heal, which breeds Labs and donates them to other organizations to train as service or companion dogs. They serve the disabled or injured vets such as Bennett, but they are also trained to help children who suffer from seizures, autism spectrum disorder and more.
Petrizzo works with up to 50 volunteers at Project2Heal who handle the daily operations. They start when each litter of carefully bred pups are just two days old, Petrizzo says, "imprinting" them with the sights and smells they'll need to understand later as trained service dogs. When the most promising puppies are just weeks old, they are given to service dog training groups for specialized training.
In the case of Bennett's service dog Festus, Project2Heal sent the pup to Indiana Canine Assistant Network (ICAN), which then matched him with Bennett one year ago. It was ICAN's 100th service dog, and its first with a combat wounded veteran.
Festus went to the Indiana Women's Prison to be trained by the inmates there. Many service dogs are trained by inmate handlers in prisons across the country.
Bennett spent two weeks at the prison with Festus to see if they would hit it off, and they did – right from the start.
Festus looked at Bennett, and the dog's eyes said, "Everything is going to be OK," the wounded Marine recalls.

'There to pick me up'



Now, three-year-old Festus is now helping the former Marine in ways he never imagined.
There's the "brace" command. Bennett says it, and Festus lets Bennett lean on his back for support. This enables him to put on his socks and reach for items on the bottom shelf at stores.
Before Festus came along, Bennett says, he simply didn't go to the store by himself. Now, he can go out anytime he wants.
Festus helps Bennett walk straight, too – keeping him from sidling too much in one direction because of his leg injuries.
And the "nudge" command makes possible experiences like going to a Chicago White Sox game, despite the worry of loud noises and crowds triggering his post-traumatic stress disorder.
"Like a lot of teams, they have fireworks when the White Sox hit a home run," Bennett says, but the whistling and exploding noises of fireworks can set off a PTSD episode, in which he can be frozen, zoned out for 20 minutes or more.
Without Festus, "I'd be hoping the White Sox do not hit a home run," Bennett says. But the dog nudges him, pushing his cold doggy nose into the side of Bennett's leg until he snaps out of the trance. Now his PTSD episodes last only five minutes or so, he says.
But the simple things Festus does are what truly amaze him, Bennett says.
"I can go do a flight of stairs like I did 10 years ago," he says, choking up.
Despite having had 26 surgeries to repair his hands and legs, he still feels pain from his injuries, but the pain has lessened considerably. And, he adds, "If I fall, he's going to be there to pick me up."
Festus has not just helped Bennett, though. Bennett's wife, his sole caregiver, is not afraid to leave him now to run errands or take time for herself.
"The anxiety that he has lowered in her, you can't ask for anything more in this world," he says.
Because Petrizzo bred the dog that has given him his life back, Bennett calls him a "major angel." He first met Petrizzo when he and Festus completed their training, when ICAN held a graduation ceremony, but Bennett wants to visit North Carolina and see where Festus and all the other service dogs got their start with Project2Heal.
Maybe when he does, Project2Heal will be in a new location.
Petrizzo has long dreamed of moving Project2Heal into a newer, larger home. He has more than one breeding dog, and each can have up to two litters a year. His pups are highly sought after by many organizations that train service dogs, because the breeding stock he uses is so highly regarded, as is the training and imprinting the Project2Heal staff do just days after the dogs are born.
Petrizzo can't keep up with the demand in his current home-based facility. He is getting assistance from parishioners at nearby St. Matthew Catholic Church, but he is also reaching out for more support because he sees a growing need – both among veterans like Bennett returning from combat, as well as with children suffering from autism spectrum disorder and other conditions.
And because he sees the good the dogs are doing.
He recalls one particular call from the mother of an autistic child who had a service dog from Project2Heal.
One day, the mother told him, she watched as the Labrador retriever brought a ball over to her son, and the child tossed it away, as if it were an annoyance. The dog brought the ball back and the child tossed it away again. Boy and dog continued to repeat the game of fetch for about 10 minutes, and soon the autistic boy began laughing.
The mother cried as she talked with Petrizzo. She hadn't heard her child laugh in years.
The amazing things dogs like Festus give back seem simple to "normal" people, Petrizzo says. But it's really all about charity – "caritas," the love of Jesus – because "a dog's love is the closest thing on earth to God's love."

Holding him up on all sides



The close bond between Festus and Bennett is no coincidence, Petrizzo and Bennett both agree.
Before he deployed to Iraq, Bennett told friends about his favorite Scripture passage, Exodus 17:10-12, which he considers his own intercessory prayer. It describes the Hebrews' battle against the Amalekites.
When the Hebrews were told to fight, Moses held up his arms. As long as he kept his arms raised the Hebrews prevailed, but when Moses grew tired and lowered his arms, the Amalekites started winning the battle. So Aaron and Hur held up Moses' arms.
"That's what I thought I would be needing" in Iraq," Bennett says: help on all sides. And he thinks he got it. From the moment he was injured by the rocket attack to his trip to medical facilities in Iraq, Germany and back in the United States, he believes he has been supported by the prayers of many.
And now Festus is holding him up, giving him back his life, he says.
Petrizzo notes that right after he was born, Festus had a different name. He was part of a litter named using a red theme.
It's also a nickname some of Bennett's friends had for him. It comes from the Bible and means "drawn from the water." The original name holder freed his people from slavery, leading them through the desert toward a new life, to a Promised Land.
They call him Festus now, but he started out as Moses.


Wednesday, March 26, 2014

SportsTalk makes fun of Kalon Davis' Eyes.

In a recent post on Sportstalksc.com, fun was poked at a Clemson offensive lineman.
See here.
They need to be careful. We knew about him long before.



Thursday, February 27, 2014

Jury duty, just sitting around

So I got called for jury duty again. This time it was magistrate's court.
When I got there, I was just one of eight jurors. There was a Highway Patrolman, and the magistrate arrived a little bit later. No lawyer or defendant.
I thought that was interesting. The judge said that they would try the accused in absentia, but he showed up, by himself, a few minutes after the judge started court.
No lawyer, I thought. No family, I thought. This is going to be interesting.
The judge had spent a lot of time explaining the process, but I was a bit bored, having covered it for years and being a confirmed know-it-all. But when the guy showed up late and alone, I knew it was going to be interesting.
A lawyer who represents himself, the saying goes, has a fool for a client. The average Joe who decides to represent himself has an absolute freaking moron for a client.
It took a while for it to become clear what the charge was. Had to be vehicular, because it was a Highway Patrol case. Wasn't even going to be a first offense DUI, because the judge mentioned there was no alcohol involved.
When we got right down to it, the guy was charged with ... (drum roll please) failure to have his trailer chained to his vehicle.
The trooper, a nice corporal, testified. Played a tape of the "incident."
I wasn't on the jury, but I stayed anyway. Didn't have a note pad, so I'm getting details from memory. But in December, he was driving on Cherry Road, turned onto Celanese and pulled in to or near the Home Depot. The trooper had stopped the guy for failure to wear a seat belt, but the guy had said he had a note to excuse him from wearing the seat belt. The trooper said he accepted that, and did not charge the man for that crime, but noticed walking up to the vehicle that there was no chains. So he gave him a ticket for that.
You couldn't hear the man clearly on the tape, but you could tell he was mouthing off, from the get-go.
When he came in, he didn't really apologize for being late, and when the judge asked him if he "had anything before we proceed," a standard thing judges ask, he did not respond.
The man had been given a January appearance date on the ticket, and in January had requested a jury trial, which was set for Feb. 26.
According to this guy, who was popping off more than a few times during the brief trial, when he met with the judge, the judge told him he WAS going to throw him in jail for 30 days, so he requested the trial at that time.
"That's why we're here," he said.
The judge said when they met, he asked the man if he had, since he had gotten the ticket, gone ahead and gotten chains for his trailer. The judge said the man asserted his Fifth Amendment right against self-incrimination. Sounds like the guy thought the judge was trying to trip him up into admitting something.
The judge said he was wanting to work with the guy. The trooper was willing to work with the guy. If he had gotten chains for the trailer, they would have dismissed the case. But he refused to answer the question and the judge told him the potential sentences.
Magistrate's court can be a bit more informal than "big" court. In all the big courts I have been to, the charge is clearly stated, and almost always, the potential sentences are laid out as well. They weren't at this trial, so when the jury went in to deliberate, the trooper, being kind to what he thought was the average citizen with better things to do, told me I was free to go.
But I am curious by nature and was free to stay, and asked him some questions.
The potential sentences are a $115 fine (which gets about doubled with court costs) or up to 30 days in jail.
Before I talked to the judge after the case, I was thinking this guy could have paid $115 and put this behind him. Yet he requested a jury trial.
He didn't really defend himself, but he doesn't have to. When he was "questioning" the trooper, he made some statements, which the judge said was testimony. But he flatly called the trooper a liar, twice. He said the trooper testified that he had a tan, four-door Jeep.
Which were TWO big lies, to this guy. I couldn't make out the color of the vehicle on the tape. Might have been white, might have been tan. But the trooper might have said four-door but meant four-wheel drive. I don't really recall what he said there.
A lawyer, had the man hired one, would have honed in on such a "discrepancy" and quizzed the trooper extensively about the difference in what he testified from memory and what was on the tape. He would have shown the jury there was a discrepancy, if there was one, and planted the idea in the jury's mind that there was a lie or two being told But calling a career highway patrolman who had served on the governor's protection detail a liar just didn't work.
He just came across as surly.
The trooper spoke in a calm voice through his testimony, but had a bit more emotion in his voice in summing up. He saw what he saw. He's been doing this a long time, he said. The patrol works to save lives.
In summation, the accused called the trooper a liar again, said the jurors didn't want their daughters getting stopped by a cop like him.
"He's one of the bad ones," he said.
It was absolutely over the top.
Over a violation that could have been dismissed without even a fine, had he bought chains for his trailer. Over a violation he might have paid a $230 fine and court costs penalty.
The jury spent more time going to the bathroom before deliberating than it did deliberating. It wasn't 10 minutes.
While the jury was out, the man started asking what the judge would do about sentencing him. He seemed like he had chosen that time to try to be reasonable. He wanted 30 days to get his affairs in order. I wasn't sure the guy would necessarily get prison time. So it struck me as both defeatist, after having requested the trial to begin with, to start asking about an accommodation in sentencing.
Sentencing in big court is a bit more formal than this was handled Wednesday.
But at a certain point, after the jury had left and some paper work had been filled out, they slapped the cuffs on him.
So began another back and forth about how he viewed he had been bullied by the cop and the judge.
But what was also hysterical was the guy working security for the judge, while they were waiting, goes up to the now-guilty fellow, and says, "We went to high school together, didn't we?"
It took a second for the guy to recognize the constable, but they had. So they spent a few minutes visiting while awaiting the sentence.
I have always wanted to serve on a jury and I have never had the chance to be one of the 12 Angry Men (and women). Not in the box. The closest I came, dear old Walter Bedingfield, a late, great defense attorney in Barnwell County who was so good because he knew all the cops when they were in high school and he had their high school hijinks in his back pocket for leverage, struck me because I worked at the paper.
I got called in York County, but after the first day, zip. No juries needed.
I love the criminal justice system and I think it is morbidly slow, but generally it works.
But this experience in the end just struck me as a colossal waste of time. I blame only the guilty dude for it. He had a chip on his shoulder, instead of a seat belt. He never elaborated and no one asked what medical issue he has that gets him an excuse to not wear it. I myself wonder if the excuse is signed, "Epstein's mother." (Dated reference, I know.)
But what was patently obvious to a first-time observer like me was confirmed by the constable.
"He was just like that in high school," he said. "Always had problems with authority figures."
Mostly, that is police. He gets pulled over a lot — he says it's because of the seat belt issue. But he has always paid those tickets.
The constable said the guy was a decent wrestler in high school, but had trouble with the coaches.
"Authority figures."
I talked to the judge afterward, actually getting a couple of interesting tidbits of information that might make some decent stories. He was interested in me and my job as well. And he has a keen interest in demographics, with some population figures and changes over the past decade on tap in his mind. Seemed like a smart guy.
His time was wasted. The trooper said he and all his fellow troopers have about 10 percent of their job time allocated for court time.
But he spent the morning, from about 9 to 10 a.m., handling 100 to 150 tickets in that same courtroom.
He then spent about an hour at a trial that was totally unnecessary.
The trooper tried to say it wasn't. But it was a waste of his time.
They say a little knowledge can be a dangerous thing. This case proved it. This was a waste of the guilty guy's time, too. His little knowledge of his "rights," had it been balanced with just a little knowledge of his responsibilities, might have spared him 30 days.
Summary courts, as municipal and magistrates courts are known in South Carolina, rarely end up with someone going to jail, the judge said. Not on a traffic case that doesn't involve alcohol, for sure.
Maybe he'll learn something in there. I doubt it
The only person's time that wasn't wasted was mine, I think. The jurors who served got the hell out of there as soon as they could. But I stuck around.
It was great entertainment. A laugh riot. Like watching "Cops," but in the courtroom.